It’s the final week of husband’s reservist and I thought I’d have to blog about how the tougher challengers always occur when he can’t be around the kids as much as he wants to, due to work or country’s commitments.
In fact, I think I’ve been doing quite well so far. Until the recent weekend.
The last time he had reservist, the twins were about a month old while L1 was 1.5 YO. My confinement nanny had just concluded her 1 month of assistance, and into my 1st or 2nd night alone, I sprained my back while carrying a container of clothes into the room. I was cringing each time I had to bend down to pick up the babies, or put them down. My eldest was also going through an adjustment period and was more clingy than usual, so she too demanded for hugs and carry.
I guess the consolation back then was that being newborns, the twins were always lying down either in their rockers or in the cot, while my eldest had already started child care (again, another adjustment for her!) Considering the adjustments she had to go through, I think L1 did a pretty good job!
This time, I caught a cold about a week before my husband’s reservist. I thought I was on the verge of recovery and even though Lucas w
as down with a phlegmy cold that weekend, I expected him to recover without much problems. However he came down with a high fever that wouldn’t go away after 2 days. He was still eating well and drinking, until the 3rd day when he refused his medication. So finally I brought him to the GP for a suppository.
Well, it’s still 1 clingy sick kid right? Still no biggie! I bade husband goodbye this recent weekend, thinking I would get through it.
Until my youngest had the high fever this morning too! Lorraine gets really whiny and sensitive when she’s sick, so here I was, starting my week with 2 high fever toddlers, whiny, crying and fighting for my undivided attention.
I think I’d do okay if I wasn’t sick too. I found a swollen lymph node along my left jaw line this morning (then realized that Lucas has it too). I haven’t fully recovered from the throat infection/flu I caught a couple of weeks back, and I think the challenge of dealing with the sick twins and my eldest wanting my attention too, is really taking a toll on me.
I must never, never, succumb to this virus. I can’t anyway because I wouldn’t have the chance to lie down in bed and rest, unless the kids are sleeping. So as I quickly blog this entry down, I have just settled the sick ones down and left the eldest to entertain them with toys. Before this calmness, I was carrying both the 2.5 year old twins who were crying out loud while trying to talk some sense into the whining eldest who was demanding to be carried too, complaining that her throat hurts.
My eldest is coughing too, and seems to be coming down with the same virus, so I seriously need to toughen up lest the rest of the week gets tougher!
It’s only a couple of hours before my husband books out and comes home with my dinner (I haven’t eaten anything the whole day!), and I’m thankful that I get to see him and have his help around the house, even if only for a short while.
A concerned friend was subtly telling me that I should get a maid, but even with challenges like this, I don’t think I still want to. One of the biggest reasons is that I’m quite scared after hearing stories of maid nightmares from other moms.
In times like these when I’m sick and have to handle the kids on my own, do I wish I had a maid? Yes. But would I want to make this come true? Not for now. In a sense, I’m quite contented with the way things are even though I may get frustrated and feel like throwing in the towel.
I know my husband is rooting for me even though he’s not physically at home with us, and that’s all that matters.
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